A PSA to Seasoned Moms From a New Mom


Finally, I have some time to compose my messy thoughts and touch on a subject that really irks me. As a new mom, I am constantly “educated” by seasoned mothers. They of course, know it all, and being a new mom, I am clearly uneducated and I couldn’t possibly have done any research. This is my PSA to you, seasoned mom. You, the one who watches me struggle and judges me whether it’s silently or to my face. You, the one who thinks because I’m young, that I obviously don’t know what the hell I’m doing. And definitely you, who thinks because you have 10 kids (maybe I’m exaggerating), that you absolutely, positively, know it all.

Firstly, please for the love of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, remember that at some point, you were a new mom too. I know it’s hard to fathom, but you didn’t always know it all. I promise, at one point in time, you were the mother who didn’t know if you should or shouldn’t give your baby a pacifier, who didn’t know whether co sleeping was a good or bad idea, and you definitely didn’t know how to react to pushy, judgmental folk like yourself. Obviously, I am not addressing all seasoned mothers. I have a few very wonderful friends who I look to for advice and help. Primarily because I know they won’t shove their unwanted opinions down my throat 24/7.

Secondly, I’m begging you, stop with the “just wait” crap. How in any way is that helpful? For example, I distinctly remember when I was pregnant and said “man I’m tired”, a woman commented “oh just wait until the baby gets here!” I’m young, not an idiot. I know there is sleepless nights when you become a mother, but I wasn’t aware that I couldn’t be tired any other time. Also, I would argue that, while I get less sleep now that she’s here, the quality of sleep I get is much better than when I was a pregnant whale who could barely sit up or roll over.

The last thing I want to touch on is that yes, maybe you are right. Maybe what I’m doing is wrong. Maybe I’m completely clueless, but there is absolutely no need to attack me (or any other mom). Just approach the situation with friendliness and respect, and I’ll probably take what you say a lot more seriously. It’s simple, I promise. A little respect goes a long way, especially these days where so many people lack basic human compassion.

The reason I’m writing this, is because as a new mom, many times I feel attacked, and I know I’m not the only one. There’s nothing like joining a page for motherly judgment “support” and reading hundreds of comments of grown women attacking each other’s parenting choices. Newsflash ladies: there is no right way to parent. Gasp! But, but, I can’t possibly be wrong! Yes, yes you can, and sometimes you are. Here is the bottom line. Are your kids fed daily? You’re a wonderful mom! Do you love your kids? You’re a wonderful mom! Do you take care of your kids to the best of your ability? YOU ARE A WONDERFUL MOM!

I’m curious, what is something that really grinds your gears?

Also, for those wondering… The Flying Spaghetti Monster: here you go.


Defining Myself


When I began to circulate the idea of creating my blog in my mind, I drew a blank for a name. I couldn’t think of anything creative, funny, or that really fit. Someone gave me a suggestion to use my name, so I took that and ran with it. I figured I could think of something.

I spent two days and finally, I thought I could incorporate the word “tailored”. Because it is a spin on my name, it fits my lifestyle (since I’m a self diagnosed crafting addict), and its definition had a special meaning to me.

I googled the term, and this is what stuck out to me (and yes I know the meaning, I just wanted a deeper understanding of how I could relate it to my blog, ha).

/ˌteɪ·lərd/ adj [not gradable] (also tailor-made /ˌteɪ·lərˈmeɪd/)
specially made for a particular purpose or situation:
a tailored (= close-fitting) suit
Her clothes fit perfectly – they must be tailor-made.

So I know it might not make sense immediately, and you’re probably thinking, “what does that have to do with anything?” What stood out to me was the part where it says “specifically made for a particular purpose or situation”. I believe that everyone has a particular purpose, but furthermore, I think this blog is a good way for me to start exploring mine. I’ve mentioned that I’m going to be blogging about motherhood, and I will say right now I have always felt that being a mother to a wonderful little child was one of my biggest purposes in life. The day Princess was born confirmed that for me even more. I think that exploring yourself is a really good thing for both you, and your relationships. You can recognize your strengths and weaknesses and use them appropriately. I’ve compiled a list of my top 3 biggest strengths and weaknesses as a wife and mother. Feel free to make your own list and share with me!


1. Communicating effectively.
I figured I would start with my weaknesses because I’m a “bad news first, get it out of the way” type of gal. Communicating effectively is so hard for me. I go from zero to pissed off in a matter of seconds if people don’t understand me or hear me the first time. I’m working on it (you’re welcome Ryan), and some days are easier than others.

2. Being selfish.
Sometimes, I’ll admit, I think, “why can’t I just be traveling the world or studying abroad?” I didn’t get a typical college experience, I never lived in dorms, I never joined a sorority. I was meeting the love of my life, getting married, and starting a family. Believe me when I say I am truly happy. But sometimes I think I just want a few days to myself, on a beach, lying in the sun without a care in the world. I also would like to add that I’m a very big “my way or the highway” kind of girl, and that doesn’t always sit well with people.

3. I’m a perfectionist.
I’m the type who wants you to clean the house, but I want you to clean it my way. I’ve had to compromise and I quickly learned that my way isn’t necessarily the right way.


1. I love with every part of my being.

This is my biggest strength. I truly lay my heart out on the table and do my best to let my husband and Princess know that they are my absolute world.

2. I’m creative.
This may not sound like a big deal, but being creative can help in a lot of ways. I am very crafty, I can find ways to cut expenses by doing stuff myself, and I’m also extremely good at finding fun little activities that don’t break the bank. I’m pretty proud of that!

3. I’m a perfectionist.
I know, you’re thinking “what? Didn’t I just read this on her weaknesses list?” Yes, yes you did. But if there’s anything I’ve learned through my experiences, it’s that sometimes your features are both a weakness and a strength. Being a perfectionist gives me a good eye for detail when it comes to things like budgeting, cleaning the house, and making sure the home front is maintained so to speak.

So that’s my list, and let me just say, it was a lot harder to come up with my strengths than my weaknesses. But doing so really boosted my self esteem, because really, we should all try to highlight our strengths instead of focusing on our weaknesses. Try making a list yourself! Share it with me if you’re so inclined because I would love to read it!

Signing off,
The Tailored Mama